Hello Debitom,

I am so sorry to hear about your situation, but let me assure that not all Nigerian men are like your soon to be ex-husband.

What a lot of women in Europe do not realise is that the majority of Nigerian men here illegally would do 'anything' to regularise their stay. So please do not in any feel used.

I would suggest that you move in with your family and get as far away from him as possible. No one should stay with a violent partner. If you want to start divorce proceedings, go right ahead.

I believe since it's pretty obvious he married you just to get residency, he should not be allowed to stay in the light of things.

I wish you all the best.

 

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True love does not involve physical abuse, nor mental or emotional abuse for that matter. A relationship needs love, trust and respect for it to work. Clearly these 3 ingredients are not present in your relationship, at least from his side. And it takes two to tango.

I highly suggest removing yourself from your current environment as it is not healthy for you. I also suggest speaking to a solicitor to start proceedings for annuling your marriage, or divorce if possible. PM me if you have any other concerns as this issue is very sensitive for public consumption.