please could you assess our situation and point us in the right direction as to what to do next and which is the best visa for us to apply for.

I am currently a UK citizen, my girlfriend is a US citizen, and we are both single and both free to marry.

I currently use the 90 day visa waver program to enter the country and do this trip several times a year. My first question, is by doing this is there a limit to how many times they will let me in? When asked why am I here I am truthful and tell them I am here on business ( I will explain later) there never seems to be any real problems saying this, although I have heard a few stories where people are stopped entering if they are entering to many times, is this right? Might I be stopped entering on this basis? Is there a maximum limit to the amount of times I can enter on a visa waver program.

I am a self employed Marketing consultant, and work over here when I am here advising companies on marketing, I invoice them and they pay me a check, my second question is, is this legal as I don’t have my social security number? The third question is how do I get my social security number.

We would like to marry within the next 12 months, based on what I have told you, what is the best way to go about this? Do we have to get married over here? (USA) Or could we marry in Ireland? Will I have to stay in the UK while I wait for a visa or could I still come in and out as I please, I stay here about 2 months at a time.

I have no legal reason why I shouldn’t be allowed a visa, but based on what I have told you, what do you think the chances are of getting a permanent visa, and roughly how long does it take. Lastly if I manage to get a work permit, could I marry her on that?

As you can see I need some serious help. Thank you all in advance