Moving abroad can make something as simple as eating become a challenge. Different utensils, strange foods, a foreign language, and an entirely different standard of etiquette can be a minefield for new expats. And as eating is something we - as humans - kinda have to do, it is an unavoidable obstacle.
In our new series of "____ Like a Local", we provide tips to avoid the worst faux pas and an overview of standards around the world. (For more tips on fitting in, read Talk Like a Local, Tip Like a Local, Date like a Local, Stay Healthy like a Local, and Greet Like A Local).
The guide below refers to the established standards of an area. However, different countries within the regions and different people may interpret or ignore these rules entirely. Watch your hosts or other guests and follow their lead. While this guide should help you avoid embarrassment, what is most important in any situation is to try to be respectful and courteous. Good intentions can take care of all sort of "bad manners".
As a primarily Muslim nation, pork and alcohol are not commonly served. In addition, eating with the left hand is discouraged. Also beware of Ramadan observations as eating (and other behaviors) are unacceptable during daylight hours. For more information on Ramadan, read Respecting Ramadan as an Expat or Traveler.
A unique custom in Ethiopia is gursha. It involves the people feeding each other with their bare hands. A host may scoop up meat, vegetables and sauces and feed the person sitting next to them.
Meals are often served from a communal bowl. Eat from the portion of the communal bowl or plate closest to you using your hand. Never put your hand into your mouth because you will use it again to touch the communal food. When drinking tea, the teapot is held high in the air so that as the tea is poured into the glass, a little ring of bubbles forms around the surface as proof of proper aeration.
South Africa has been significantly westernized and there is a mix of western and African standards. Utensils are commonly used, but be aware that communal serving and eating with the hands may also be acceptable. You should still avoid using your left hand unless you are clearly eating something that requires two hands. The honored guest is usually served first, then the oldest male, then the rest of the men, then children, and finally women.
Chinese chopsticks are usually round, as opposed to the more square-sided Japanese kind. Compliments are expected, so praise the food throughout. If you are the honored guest, you will be expected to make a toast, usually soon after the host does or at the end of the meal. An appropriate toast is to the health of the host and all those present, and to the prosperity of the business that brought you together.
Be aware of the dining restrictions of Muslims and Hindus as Islam prohibits the use of pork, and Hindus do not eat beef. When dining with Hindus, do not touch directly any food that is being served to others (especially between men and women). When dining with devout Muslims, it is especially important for women not to touch directly any food that is being served to men. The spoon is more important than the fork, so if you are right-handed, keep the spoon in your right hand, and put it down to switch to the fork if you need it. Never use your left hand for eating. At the end of the meal, it is considered unnecessary and in bad taste to thank the host or hostess for the meal; this is perceived as a "payment" for the meal, and as a guest, you should not do that.
Meals are usually served with a bowl of soup without a spoon. You should pick up the bowl with both hands to sip the soup, and use chopsticks to pick up any solid pieces that may be in the broth. Slurp is a sign of appreciation, but splattering is frowned upon. Also note that conversation is subdued.
If an older person offers you a drink, lift your glass to receive it with both hands. After receiving the pour with both hands, you should turn your head away and take a discreet sip. At traditional and family feasts, after the first glass is filled by your neighbor and then drained by you, South Koreans often refill their own glass then pass it to the person on their right. Then, after you drink, you refill the glass, and pass it again to the neighbor on your right, with everyone at the table doing the same thing. This is usually done during a series of toasts.
It is polite to wait to be asked before sitting for dinner, and to wait to be told where to sit, and to wait to be told when to start eating. You will always be offered more food. Leave a bit on your plate if you do not want more food. Chopsticks are only used to eat Chinese food. Otherwise, forks, spoons, and knives are used with Philippine and Western food. In some Philippine restaurants no utensils are used and fingers are employed. Known as "banana-leaf" food, these vegetarian or meat curries are served with rice and sauce on a large banana leaf. Avoid using your left hand for any kind of eating, especially if you are eating directly with your hands and not using utensils.
Chopsticks are not traditionally used in Thailand. Spoons and forks are used (never knives). If you need to cut things, use the side of your spoon first, then move on to the fork if necessary. If you are right-handed, keep the spoon in your right hand and the fork in your left. Don't put food in your mouth with a fork. When eating a dish with cooked rice, use your fork only to push food onto your spoon. A few exceptions: Some northern and northeastern Thai dishes are typically eaten with the hands. These usually consist of glutinous or "sticky" rice.
The knife above the plate is used for butter; otherwise, always start from the outside and work your way in, course by course. The English do not switch knives and forks. The knife remains in the right hand, and the fork remains in the left. When the meal is finished, the knife and fork are laid parallel to each other across the right side of the plate. The fork is often held tines down, so that food is scooped up onto the backside of the fork. At the table, pass all dishes to your left.
Meals may begin with the host saying "Bon appetit"! Meals also have an order:
Meals may not consist of all of these courses, but this is the order for a complete French meal. Bread is eaten with the meal, not as an appetizer. The knife above your plate is for bread and butter (or it may be a small knife laid by the side of the main plate). The fork and spoon above your plate are for dessert. There will be separate glasses provided at your setting for water, white and red wine, and champagne. Diners don't order their entire meal at once. Instead, the waiter will often go around taking appetizer orders first, then go around again for the main course. Only after all food orders have been taken will drinks be ordered.
Arrive on time as punctuality indicates proper planning - no later than 15 minutes later than invited without telephoning to explain you have been detained. Knives are usually only used when absolutely necessary. Even the lettuce in a salad is not cut. It is folded using your knife and fork. Utensils are used in most meals and even fries (and sometimes burgers) are eaten with a fork. Rolls, however, should be broken apart by hand. While toasting, never break eye contact. If you are not looking at the person you are toasting, it is said to bring 7 years bad sex!
As one moves from north to south through Italy, the food shifts from rice-based dishes (risottos) to wheat-based dishes (noodles and pastas, pizzas and gnocchis).Eating is an event in Italy and there is a right way to do things.
Meal may not include every course, but meals should generally be in this order. Pasta should be eaten with a fork using the sides of the bowl or plate against which to twirl the pasta onto the fork. Do not slurp the pasta strands. Place the entire forkful into your mouth at once. A cappuccino should only be ordered before noon as some Italians say that a late-day cappuccino upsets the stomach, or that it's a replacement for a meal (it's common to have a cappuccino for breakfast). On the other hand, a shot of espresso can be drunk at anytime.
Never turn down the national drink of vodka. It is also uncommon to mix it or drink it with ice. Bread is usually offered after each drink. If you really cannot drink, you should be prepared with a good excuse, like doctor's orders. While toasting, never break eye contact.
It is acceptable (and even common) to be late by 30 minutes in southern Spain and 15 minutes in northern Spain for social meetings. The fork and spoon above your plate are for dessert. There are usually separate glasses for water and white and red wine. Bread is placed on the rim of your main plate or on the table by your plate. It can be used as a utensil to push food gently onto the fork. However, it is not acceptable to dip the bread in the soup. Try not to waste food. It is better to decline food rather than leave it on your plate.
Guests are supposed to eat first, eat the most, and should be seated furthest from the door. Guests who accidentally drop their bread should pick it up, kiss it, and raise it to their foreheads before setting it back down.
Food and dining in Israel is both middle eastern and western. Western utensils are used throughout Israel and dining is done the Continental way. In Orthodox homes and establishments, men and women may dine in separate areas, or at different times. Religious Israelis have strict dietary laws. Always assume, unless told otherwise, that your hosts observe kosher eating. Pork and shellfish is prohibited, as is the mixing of milk and meat products. After eating meat, don't ask for butter for your bread or cream for your coffee.
Dining is done with forks and spoons and knives, Western style. Guests are served first, then the oldest man, then the rest of the men, then children, and finally women. Tea is drunk throughout the day in a ritual fashion in a little curved glass. Milk is never added, but water is used to dilute the tea which often still steeping when served. The coffee served here is also particular to the country. It is very strong, with grounds still present in the bottom of the cup. It is served with sugar, but milk is not added. This drinks are offered everywhere in a gesture of hospitality. Cups are refilled by your neighbor; if it is less than half full, it needs refilling.
The cities of the UAE are extremely cosmopolitan. Western standards are generally adhered to and many of the residents are actually expats. Do not offer alcohol to an Arab unless you are sure this will not offend them. While dining, keep your feet firmly placed on the ground and do not cross your legs. Showing the soles of your feet implies you think the other person is beneath you. Beware that Ramadan observation makes eating (and other behaviors) unacceptable during daylight hours.
Many foods are eaten with your hands and Mexicans do not switch knives and forks. Foods like tacos should never be eaten with a fork and knife. Using utensils is seen as snobby and is not the best way to enjoy Mexican food. Lunch is the main meal of the day and you should always plan to spend at least two hours enjoying this meal. It is rude to rush off immediately afterwards. If you are at a restaurant, it is customary to allow your host to order for you. Excess drinking is frowned upon in Mexico, especially when it's a women.
Americans conduct business over breakfast, lunch and dinner. Some socializing may start off the meal, but often the conversation will revolve around business. The guest of honor is often toasted and should reciprocate by giving a toast of thanks. If offered a second helping of food, feel free to take what you like. American hosts like to see people enjoying their food. Americans tend to eat more quickly than people from other countries and meals are usually a fast paced affair. Informal gatherings at homes are frequent occurrences. Laid back parties like potlucks involve everyone bring a dish to share. On the other hand, it would be highly unusual to be asked to share a table at most restaurants.
Argentina is known world-wide for many of it's food products. To cut meat, hold the meat with your fork in your left hand, and cut the meat with the knife in your right hand through the tines of the fork. There are also important rules regarding the pouring of wine. One should never pour a glass backwards into a glass or use your left hand as this means you very dislike the person you are serving. The Argentinean tea, mate, is a traditional beverage, which is served in a gourd with a silver straw (bombilla). The etiquette for drinking mate is to take a sip and pass the gourd to your neighbor; they do the same in turn.
Dining s fairly formal in Chile. Utensils are used almost exclusively and even fries should be eaten with a fork. Women are shown respect by being sat and served before men.
It is considered bad form to leave the dinner party, or the table, at any time. Allow more senior members of your party to enter rooms ahead of you. Men should move aside to allow women to enter the room ahead of them.
Forks and knives should be used for everything eaten at a table. Don't lick your fingers or use toothpicks â€” both are considered vulgar. Water is not automatically served at the table. If you want water, ask for it. At a churrascaria (Brazilian steakhouse) servers circle with cuts of meat and diners use tokens to place an order. If a server comes out with something you want, make sure your token has the green side up. If you don't want any more, flip it with the red side up.
@Wendy_Hollands at Le Franco Phoney
Only drink white wine with fondue Savoyarde or Raclette. Also, scrape Raclette evenly, including crusts, and eat crusts! Only cut wedges from Reblochon cheese from the centre (and eat crust). Wedges from Tomme too, but don't eat crust. Tip for Aussies in France: don't ask for butter and jam on your croissant. Locals think you're mental. Pastry already tasty!
In La Paz, Bolivia, you ought to ask for a serving of QUINUA (grains) - super healthy, rich in proteins, and you can mix it with soup, sprinkle over meat, mix with your stew... the possibilities are endless! Ah! And don't forget to ask for the hot tomatillo salsa... hummm!
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